The types of relationships you have in life are what make you. But do those relationship roles have to consume you?
Let’s say you’ve been single for a while now. There’s nothing wrong with it and as a matter of fact, you actually enjoyed it. Then you meet someone and things get serious. Before you know it, you’re now in a full-blown relationship! Congrats!
However, along with that oh-so-lovely relationship comes the new role of “the girlfriend”. Although it does have its perks at times, there are some things in your life that you’ve noticed that have now changed.
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Fast-forward to your man getting down on one knee to ask the question. THEE QUESTION! Oh my goodness! You simply cannot contain your excitement! Of course, you’ll say YES!
Hold on now… now you carry the role of “the fiancé”. Then, you’ll be a wife. If you decide to have kids… mom.
With all of these relationship roles in your life, it can honestly get overwhelming! There is just so much to uphold within each of these roles for the wellness of other people. If you’re not careful, you could lose yourself within these roles!
That’s right. Before you know it, you will have forgotten all of the lovely things that made you… well, you. All of your likes, your dislikes, your dreams, your goals. Yes, girl, if all you are doing is pouring into who you are in those particular relationship roles, then you could begin to forget about yourself and all of the beautiful stuff that made you so uniquely you!
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But yikes! I get it! As a wife and mother of three myself, I KNOW what it’s like to have to put yourself last most days. The sacrifice is real. And there are a lot of days when you might be asking yourself, how to keep these roles from taking over.
Coming to you firsthand, it’s not easy. After my first year of marriage, I struggled with it. As a first-time mom, I struggled even more. All the while, I was trying to go back to the woman I once knew and loved. However, every time I tried to reach out to her, I felt like she was gone.
And that’s the truth that all women must face. That no matter what you do or how many relationship roles you gain, you will never fully be able to reach back to the woman you used to be before you entered each of those relationships.
Even if certain relationships never work out! Perhaps you were going to tie the knot and grow old together with someone. But after a few red flags, you realized that homie was not the one. Still, even in those cases… the woman you used to be will feel long gone.
So what can you do? How do you keep from losing yourself time and time again?