Sooner or later, we fall into a season where change is inevitable.
We all come into that time in our life that we are extremely disappointed in ourselves. We look at what we had set out to accomplish and see that it was not finished or not even started. We sulk, cry even get into a season of depression because nothing is going our way.
I have to say to me this was the case.
I had a list of things that I wanted to get done and none of them got accomplished. It was not in the cards. Life seriously happened and I blamed myself for it.
So here is a little back story in what I am talking about; I am a college student at a standstill. I had every intention of finishing my Junior year, becoming a senior and working on graduating with my Bachelors.
The current job I had was great, not stressful at all but the pay was unrealistic. I moved in with my parents from being out-of-town, I wanted to be closer to my family. As much as I love my parents I was not wanting to stay there (I know that they understand!).
I saved up money to move out and still needed to find a stable job. My Dad told me about a job and I applied, the pay was good but I would eventually have to work nights and tons of hours. This took a damper on me trying to get back into school and getting my business off the ground.
So you can see why I feel like I’m at a standstill with what I was trying to get accomplished.
I was not adapting to my “change” so well. And it’s been hard.
Sometimes we have good intentions like life goals that we set out for ourselves. We pray, seek God and do it anyway instead officially getting the “go-ahead” or that “peace” that lets us know that this was God ordained.
Or we get the “peace” and we don’t allow God to take control and lead us in the steps to help us get into the area of which we are supposed to be in.
I am seeing that it is very important for us to keep God in our everyday lives. He wants us to have our complete and total trust in Him.
One scripture that is so good is Proverbs 3:5-6 (NIV) that says
“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.”
A lot of the times we do not know why we go through certain hardships of change that take us from what we thought would be away from our goal.
Little did I know, while working all these hours at work I got connected with a co-worker that gave me important information to help me better market myself and would also help me in better organizing my goals that I want for my business! God is so good!
I had all these great plans and tools but did not know how to get them all started. I was so scared of asking for help. But God knew how to get the answers to me by using my gift and love of making people feel welcome (I love to feed people!)
We both shared our hearts about reaching out to women and teaching them how to love themselves and how to do that with Gods help. She asked some hard questions that I could not answer. Huge reality check, right? I was not ready to do anything. My goal for school was to financially pay for schooling on my own and making my business my full-time job. No more Student Loans for Evie in 2018!
Although I feel like I may not have accomplished much in 2017, because of all the change, I am right where God wants me to me.
A friend told me that “This is only for a season”. I did not like my season to just wait and feel like I was not progressing like other people who I saw on Facebook and Instagram.
In 2017, my time was spent getting closer to my family, finding a good job that will not keep me from paycheck to paycheck and I making health my priority; my self-care.
It took me till almost the end of 2017 to really realize that. I was so stuck on the fact that I could not go back to school and at least get my business in the planning stages.
I was so busy focusing on the setbacks of my change that I was totally missing how they were setting me up for an even better season!
If you feel stuck, as though your plans aren’t going anywhere, then here is my encouragement to you.
1. When plans change or don’t go as planned don’t lose hope.
There is a reason why you are not able to go on to the next step. God is wanting to get your attention on something important that you need in order to help you get to the level of your life. Mine happened to be in a form of making a new friend that had the finishing pieces to my puzzle!
2. Take time to pray and read the word and allow it to change you.
Don’t fall into self-pity and become your own worst enemy: I did this for most of the year. I didn’t get out of my rut until almost the end of 2017! I spent most of my time asking God why was I not getting anything done instead of asking God what He wanted to show me.
If I can recommend something to you; Graham Cooke: “The Art of Thinking Brilliantly”. You can listen to it for free on YouTube. It is AMAZING! I have to say that I wish that I have heard of this speaker sooner. Everything that he talked about was on point with what I was going through in my life. Changing my thought pattern in what was going on in the present took time but I’m so glad that it did.
3. God knows everything that is going on in our lives (even in our change!) and is with us every step of the way.
What you think is a step back is really a set up for what you will need to get to the next step that God has for you.
“Delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart.” Psalm 37:4 (ESV)
Trust that God knows what He is doing. It’s all for our good and He will give you the desires of your heart.
So when you think that the season in your life has halted, it in actuality is preparing you for something much greater than you can ever imagine. Be encouraged ladies! The best is yet to come!