I’m going to be completely honest and let you in on whether or not it’s healthy for you to have an on again, off again relationship.
And not only am I going to give you the lowdown on this. I’m also going to give you a few things to consider when this situation occurs.
First off, let me just say that it’s very common for women to go back to their men after a breakup. They are a comfortable option to go back to. I get this.
Going back to your Ex is a comfortable choice because you guys got history. Because perhaps there are some good things that you don’t want to miss if you ended for good. There could be kids involved. Whatever the case may be, having this guy enter and re-enter into your life is something that a lot of women choose to do… so you’re not alone.
However, just because it’s an option that seems to be quite popular among many, doesn’t make it the best option for you.
As a Christian Relationship Coach, I’m here to let you know that I don’t care about that guy… I care about you. Just you. Only you. That’s who we’re gonna focus on right now.
So if you’re experiencing this firsthand, or you know someone who is, then sit back and take notes.
I’ll get straight to the point: If you’re dating someone and they’re constantly messing up, and they never change their ways (though they said they would), then YES, you are in an unhealthy relationship.
It’s an unhealthy setting for you to place yourself in because there is no growth towards anything. As in, a deeper love, deeper trust, going to the next level in your relationship, you’re becoming a better person, etc.
The best thing for you to do at this point is to end the relationship, once and for all.
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Don’t worry about the kids. Or the history and all you’ve been through, yada, yada, yada.
At the end of the day when it comes to this kind of relationship, you have to be real with yourself and consider the following,
“Why do you continue to go back to this person?”
And the reason, “I love them” becomes rather obsolete after the first couple of breakups, so you shouldn’t rest your future choices on this excuse.
Remember, if you continue to find a reason for you to separate from this person, then why do you find exceptions for him to keep coming back?
In the end, it all boils down to this one question,
“Do you love yourself enough?”
Enough to believe that there is a better relationship out there for you?
To pull yourself away from an unhealthy environment?
To give yourself the love and respect that you deserve to have?
Most importantly, do you love yourself more than you love him?
These cases often happen because women don’t realize that they are worthy of receiving something better. Instead, they tend to “settle”. They think that this kind of treatment is all they are worth having. This couldn’t be farther from the truth.
Strongly consider the other options that you have when you’re faced with a yo-yo relationship. One of those options being you might actually live a better life without him, and the other option being you might actually find someone who’s better.
Do not allow your emotions to lead you down a road that you’re going to regret later on.
Whatever decision you choose to make, you want to make sure that the result of that choice is going to bring you peace and love in your life. Anything outside of that is no good and a true waste of your time.
Tired of wasting your time? Isn’t it time that you begin to live with a love that makes you NOT have to go through a breakup everytime things go wrong?
Your Turn: Have you dealt with an on again, off again relationship? What made you stay? What made you go? Share in the comments below!