Though I didn’t realize it then, the breakups I had have taught me some of the greatest lessons of my life.
I credit a lot of my business success to the relationship I have with my husband. We began as friends (I actually placed him in the “friend zone” at first), developed a love for each other, committed to having a pure dating relationship, and chose not to kiss until we met at the altar on our wedding day.
It was a beautiful love story that was completely entrusted to God and lead by faith, a lot of prayers, and a crazy ton of love lessons that I learned beforehand.
While I give a lot of credit to my existing relationship with my hubby as to how I help women find love and live a love-filled life, I gotta admit, that I wouldn’t ever make it this far without all of the lessons I learned from my past breakups.
Back then, I didn’t handle breakups well. As a product of divorce, I never wanted to end up the way that my parents did. I never wanted to become sad, bitter, or hateful towards my Ex… To me, if I were to ever get in a relationship, I was going to do whatever it took to make it work.
But of course, that did not happen. And over the course of my early and mid-20’s, I failed time and time again in relationship after relationship.
Some breakups were meant to happen. Some got me totally off guard. I initiated some of them, and in others, I practically begged the guy to stay with me.
At times it got ugly. I mean, really ugly. It’s almost embarrassing to even admit how completely lost and desperate I had become during those days.
But my times of desperation in those breakups lead me to become the love-filled woman who I am today.
As a Relationship Coach, I feel that it’s my purpose-driven duty to share with you what I learned during these breakups so that a) you can also learn from them, and b) you can avoid many of the mistakes that I’ve made.
Before I get into my top five love lessons that I learned from my breakups, I can tell you now that the ultimate, number one thing that got me through any and all of my breakups was getting closer to God.
Sure, it doesn’t seem like much when you are in the thick of your breakup season, but by getting to know the love of God, I was able to restore from my breakups, and heal so that I had developed the strength I needed to move on for good!
Ok, with that major key out-of-the-way, let me go ahead and share with you the top five love lessons I learned (beyond the ultimate lesson of getting to know God’s love) from my breakups.