You think it’s easy to set a healthy balance between dating & God?
I have a confession.
Whenever I used to be in a relationship, I would always put my boyfriend first before everyone else… including my faith in Christ.
“Loyalty” and “faithfulness” were seen as two things that really sealed your relationship and made you a good “girlfriend”. So I stood by his side and ignored everyone else.
But in doing so, I sacrificed every other relationship I had, including close friends and family members.
I could see that they grew concerned; I no longer answered their calls and my Facebook wall had become a ghost town.
But I couldn’t see the damage I was doing at the time. I was too busy worrying about strengthening my relationship with my so-called future husband.
Flash forward a few years. After mending from the heartache of my previous relationships, I found myself and realized that nothing in this world matters more to me than my relationship with God and my relationship with myself. And the reconciliation with all of my existing relationships had to take place.
Then enters the new guy.
Suddenly, I’m all types of confused because I absolutely did not want this dude to mess up the relationships that I had to reinvest in.
Especially my relationship with Christ.
So, like me, you may find yourself open to spending more time with someone new in order to get to know them. And you begin to like this guy the more you spend time with him.
It’s a crazy series of events: You like a guy. You like hanging out with guy. You make time to hang out with guy. You forget about everyone else.
Meanwhile, everything else that you used to do during your single days is slowly being neglected without a second thought.
And sure, you don’t mean for that to happen intentionally… but it’s happening.
What do you do?
How do you balance?
During my single season, I used to spend hours alone praying, reading the Bible, and just worshipping Jesus. I lived for those intimate moments. Then, I thought that when I began to date my husband that I could be able to balance my growing relationship with him, my new life of dating & God. Not the case.
I remember pushing my husband away and demanding that he would not bother me for an entire weekend so that I could spend my alone time with God and strengthen my faith.
I was afraid that if I didn’t, then I would slip back into my old ways, and my love-life would be a sham all over again.
Do you ever feel like your walk with God begins to lack the moment you enter a new relationship? In this video, I share how you can balance your new bae with your spiritual walk! Watch now.
Your Turn: How do you incorporate your faith into your relationship? Share in the comments section below!!
Hi Selina….I have a question…
So you have a boyfriend and He tells you that he is unable to balance time…that is God’s time,,your time,,,he’s just unable to do things he should be doing during the day,,,,so he comes and tells you that he wants to break up with you for he is just pushing you away..he doesn..and you end up telling him thayt you will try to help him in any way that is possible….what do you think I should do just to help him….I knoew he loves me and I love him too
I think you should listen to your boyfriend and receive what he is trying to tell you.
Great article. So very important and insightful
Thanks! It was definitely a struggle that I had back in the day so I’m glad that my experience and lessons could help!