When it comes to celibacy, is it a thing of the past?
These days, everyone from just about everywhere can openly express, discuss, and promote sex as a casual, fun, and modern art.
But what about those who are still trying to save themselves for marriage? Is this now considered old-fashioned?
Is it worth the pressure from significant others or the discouragement from friends and family who do not value celibacy?
I share my response in this episode. Click below to enjoy!
Now, for those of you who do not know what the term, “celibacy” is, it’s basically choosing to not have sex until you decide to marry.
It is as old-fashioned as true-love, honoring your body, and marriage.
And in case you didn’t know…none of these are considered, “old-fashioned” at all.
Picture this, if you will…
You have a house. It is a beautiful house. It is the most perfect house that you can ever imagine.
You have a set of keys for this house. Imagine yourself giving your set of keys away to someone you just met, who you may like, who claims they love you, and you may be feeling the same way.
I cannot tell you who you choose to let inside your house and when to let them in, but I will say this:
If this person does not choose to invest in your house as a permanent resident, then all you have living in your home is a squatter.
You have to understand that even though the media portrays sex to be “fun, flirty, and liberating”, it goes so much deeper than that.
Love is so deep and deeply rooted. Sex is the physical symbol of that deep-rooted love. So when you do engage in sex, you have two people becoming one person, literally.
You both are connecting in more ways than one. Through the act of sex, you are connecting spiritually, physically and emotionally (though you may not realize it). Your hearts are intertwined together, that’s how deep love is.
That’s how deep the act of love through sex is also.
In the past, I gave my keys away.
My heart, my soul, my mind, and I wanted my body to be completely all in. I felt a strong connection in past relationships and I wanted to express my feelings at all levels.
However, these men were not on the same level of intimacy as I was. Where that left me was not just heart-broken, but I was physically detached from the men of my past.
From the inside out, my home needed repairs.
But during those seasons of repair, I discovered who I was and what I stood for.
Then I met someone…
This guy was amazing. And guess what? He proposed. And guess what else? I said “yes”!
I wanted to give this man the world because he was giving me the world in return. All I could think of giving him was the greatest, most valued gift that I had to offer.
But there was one problem…I already gave it away.
Do you really want to give up your keys to a squatter?
You can have reconciliation and you have repair your foundation, but you have the choice to keep your body and protect it until the right person comes along then by all means, I’m encouraging you to keep going in that direction.
So for all those haters out there, for all those people who don’t quite grasp the depth of what love is and what sex is from it, then tell them to fall back.
You don’t have to explain anything. You don’t owe anyone anything.
If someone is trying to become a squatter and they’re pressuring you to do that and to let that happen, then you need to ask yourself, “Does this person have the right intentions for me and my future?”
Trust me, if you find the right person, they will wait for you. They will honor you, they will love you. You don’t need to get physical to find love.
Trends come and go and guess what? Maybe we can start our own trend telling women to stay classy and honor themselves first before giving in to everybody for attention and love.
If you are still on this decision to stay celibate, then I encourage you to hold true to your heart. Hold true to your values, know who you are, know what you stay for, you know what you’re doing.
I encourage you to keep going.
So what do you think? Is celibacy “old-fashioned”? Share your thoughts in the comments section below!