Sharing the holidays when you’re in a relationship can be one of the most stressful parts of the actual relationship.
For starters, the holidays are already pretty stressful times. Just being honest here.
There are extra activities you gotta squeeze in, and having to engage and interact with everyone you know, then the gifts! All of the gifts!
Sometimes when you just want to hang out with bae, your family traditions can get in the way of all of that. Wait, are we even ready for your relationship to meet the entire family??
Yes, the holidays can be a weird time for your relationship. Any relationship really.
Consider when you are officially married and now have to merge two Christmas’s into one Christmas season! While you may think it’ll be a breeze, at some point, someone, somewhere, doing something is gonna get left out.
When Kyle and I were dating, we were going through this book called, “101 Questions to Ask Before Getting Engaged”. And one of the questions was especially covering how we would choose to spend future holidays together.
While we both thought this was an easy answer, once we got together to share our answers, we both realized that we were far from having the ideal solution.
In fact, it took us a solid week of revisiting this question before we actually came up with something that worked for both of us.
Why would spending the holidays with your boyfriend or spouse become such a stressful thing to consider you might ask?
I believe at the end of the day it boils down to the meaning of the season. We were all raised up to grow to love Christmas and the holidays for various reasons.
And because the holidays carry so much tradition behind them, we aim to uphold as much of those traditions as possible each and every year.
But once there’ s guy thrown into the mix, you wanna change that. Or not. Ok, you either wanna change it all and do your own thing, or you wanna add him into the mix and have your cake while eating it too.
Oh, but do not forget that babe is totally thinking the same way! He wants to either do something different or do it all the same just with you in it.
See where the clash can come from?
It’s messy. But it doesn’t have to be. So what exactly are the options here when it comes to celebrating the holidays with your true love?
In this video, I share THREE OPTIONS that you can choose to help you celebrate the holidays when you’re in a relationship!
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So just remember…
When you’re preparing to celebrate the holidays while being in a relationship (either just dating, engaged, or married!) remember that it’s about a little bit of the old with a little bit of the new!
It’s certainly a change regardless of how you look at it, so be open to that, even if others aren’t (for now).
Talking this plan out and giving it the attention that it deserves now is gonna save you so many headaches in the long run! So, do it! And may your holiday season bring you lots of peace, joy, and LOVE!!