I never thought that once I got married that I would not feel sexy.
I mean, after all, I felt sexy when I met my husband… and even while we were dating. Even though we decided to put God first the entire time. Yet something happened after the “I do” part that totally got into my mindset. It kept me from feeling that way as I originally expected to.
Don’t get me wrong. Our honeymoon in Moorea was dream come true. I’m talking about afterward… something was off.
And I’m sure I’m not the only wife who may experience this. Which is why I had this post featured on the Young Wives Club.
In this featured post, I share an embarrassing secret that almost drove a wedge into my fresh, new marriage. I also share how I was able to overcome it and feel sexy in my marriage!
When I was dating in my early 20’s, I was not living by God’s standards. I lived with my boyfriends, playing “house” and would flaunt my body and flirtatious attitude as a way of feeling empowered, liberated, and daring.
Yet, because I was living in sin, I gained the results of that sin in that area of my life. Feelings of being used for my body, rejection from boyfriends who did not want me/cheated on me, and other unfortunate experiences were gained from my impurity.
When I finally met my husband and we started dating, I wanted to do things the right way. Mainly, because I was a new creation and wanted to honor God with this new relationship, but also because I had never done that before—perhaps doing it God’s way would make all the difference.
And it did. We have now been happily married for four years! Even though our marriage has been blessed, we still have gone through a few marriage bumps along the way, like any other married couple. One of those bumps was our marriage bed.
The dating season was the easy part. Because we were maintaining a pure relationship, I didn’t have to think about my sex drive the way I once did when I was living a secular life.
While our wedding night and honeymoon were cherished memories that we’ll never forget, our marriage bed afterward wasn’t at all what we expected it to be. Sure, we both had sexual urges, but mentally, I wasn’t able to feel “sexy” for my husband.