
The very first time I decided to do a 21-day fast I had no idea what the heck I was doing. Or why I was doing it for that matter.
I decided that after years of being in relationships that lead to breakups, something had to change. And after figuring out that each "thing" I ended up having after my biggest breakup ever wasn't really helping me find joy and peace in my life (nor was it helping me find Mr. Right), I realized that the change I was seeking had to come from within myself.
So I decided to go to church. But not just any church. Not the church I grew up in-- that was too safe. There, I never said a word to anyone and
You see, after having such a rough patch in my love-life, I needed some answers. I was desperate for them!
I just had to know what on earth was wrong with me and why I couldn't find a good guy. And the only one who was gonna be able to help me figure all of this out was God.
So I went visited a church close to where I lived. Their website mentioned that there would be coffee there so that was promising. I've visited there before in the past once or twice, but only to check it out. Never really to... you know... commit.
Anyways, I went for the sole purpose of finding God. To fall in love with God and create a real relationship with Him just like I've been doing all this time with all these guys who didn't matter anymore. I wanted to get personal with Him. I wanted to be able to speak to Him and hear Him speak back to me in return. And if that didn't happen then at least there would be coffee.
On the first Sunday of 2011, I attended a church service and it rocked my world.
The entire message was encouraging people to fall in love with Jesus! I can't make this stuff up.
To me, that was my indication that I was at the right place at the right time and it was time for me to stick around.
Then they mentioned something about a fast. A 21-day fast. A "Daniel" fast, to be exact.
"Ummm... ok, who is Daniel, why do they keep mentioning that he's so fast, and why is he only fast for 21 days?"
Clearly there was a lot for me to learn. I had no clue. They mentioned something about eating certain foods and that everyone would be doing it. After the service was over, I stuffed my coat pockets with the notes regarding the fast (assuming I could read about it later) and left.
It wasn't until I was wondering at Walmart that I remembered the notes in my pocket regarding the fast! I quickly pulled it out and read over every word.
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Ingrid C.
Prayer is one thing. It's essential. It's direct communication to God Himself. Prayer is powerful. And when you add your faith to your prayers, you get way more than you could ever imagine.
But then you have fasting. And when you fast, it's like prayer 2.0. It takes you to a higher level of faith and closeness with God.
Because you're choosing to opt-out of things that bring you comfort and ease (such as sweets, foods, drinking, social media, etc.) it forces you to lean completely on God instead. And that's the key! That's why fasting is so awesome!
Going on a fast creates the opportunity for you to draw near to God during times when you would often go to worldly things instead.
So each year, while the fast has been the same, the breakthroughs have all been wonderfully different.
One year, I fasted and prayed for a peaceful engagement season that leads up to a great wedding. The most common word that was used throughout my wedding season was, "effortless". Needless to say, we had a perfect wedding!
Another year, my husband and I prayed for a new house. But during our fast, God put on our hearts that it was the season to have another child. Our second son was truly Godsend and a complete light during one of our most difficult seasons!
Sister, I don't know where you're at in life. I don't know if you've been feeling frustrated or confused about something. Maybe you're at your end with some things and you recognize that in order to see that change has to start with you.
Perhaps you've been praying and truly seeking God for some answers and some clarity. Well, have you ever thought about taking those prayers to the next level? If so, then you should consider fasting.
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I have completed a Daniel fast and it was wonderful. It really sent my faith to a higher level in a very dark time four years ago. I am currently fasting, figuring out if it should be a complete water fast for multiple days or just a daylight fast and eat a small meal in the evenings. Researching for a better understanding. Reading/journaling through it all…Dear God…Amen 😆 So true!
All I can say is, my questions for this fast involve my relationship growing deeper/direction, my childs health/Walk with God, my future employment and above all else, growing deeper and more joyfully in my prayer/intercession walk/relationship with God. Joy is my word this year and chaos was all I had. I’m placing my life under God’s authority and waiting on Him. Today has been easy, but God is my strength and I will lean on Him through the rest of it. However long it is 😊
Fantastic post!
Amen! Breakthrough will come from your fast!!
I’ve completed the Daniel fast before and will start again tomorrow. I am totally confused about a relationship. I need clarity about my future and those that are in my life. It was one of the hardest fast that I’ve ever done, but it’s time.
That’s a wise move to make in order to make things clear! Just know that I also offer one-on-one calls to help women process their love life if you need further direction afterward!!
Please I’m in love with a guy and he asked if I would love to be in a relationship with him and I said yes .
Okay so we agreed no sex but we kiss like passionately I don’t really know if it’s good to do that. Please reply,🙏
Hey Tammy! Sounds like one slip could lead to a whole lot of something else. Ultimately, I think you gotta take it up with God to see what He thinks you should do. I’m offering a free webinar this week on how to pray and fast for you love life. You should stop by: https://www.crowdcast.io/e/free-webinar-how-to-pray/register
HI SELINA, MY BOYFRIEND BROKE UP WITH ME TO GO BACK TO THE MOTHER OF HIS TWO KIDS, I LOVE HIM SO MUCH THAT I DONT SEE MYSELF BEING WITH ANYONE ELSE, RECENTLY WE SPOKE AND HE TOLD ME I WAS HIS FUTURE AND BY GODS GRACE HE WANTS TO MAKE ME HIS WIFE BUT HE WANTS TO END THINGS FOR GOOD WITH THE BABYMAMA AND I SHOULD BE PATIENT. HAVE FASTED BEFORE TO ASK GOD TO HELP, AND I HAD A DREAM OF ME AND THIS GUY TAKING A BATH, WHEN I GOOGLED AND IT MEANS CLEANSED FROM SIN.
Lucy, the hard truth is that if homeboy wanted to be with you then nothing (or no one) would stop him from doing just that. 💖