Let’s be completely honest with ourselves for a moment here… Are you really ready for love?
This question came from an epiphany I had four years ago, and it hit me like a ton of bricks and it shaped me up just in time to meet “Mr. Right”!
Don’t wait another minute before asking yourself!
In this episode, I want to talk to you about one very, very, VERY important question that YOU should be asking yourself before taking another step in your love life.
Click below to enjoy this episode!
Prior to getting involved in a relationship that lead to my marriage, I was a hot mess!
I had just broken up with my ex-boyfriend and I was really in the pits. I had hit rock bottom and depression took over my life. I was unable to sleep, eat, or function. All I wanted was to make things work and to feel loved once again. But because that never happened, I was miserable.
During this time, when I was hoping that someone better would come along and save me from my lonely life, I had an epiphany. What dawned on me what the following question:
“Did it ever occur to you that perhaps your ‘Mr. Right’ is actually waiting for YOU to get your life together?”
That question hit me like a ton of bricks.
In other words,
Many of us pray to receive the blessings but are unwilling to prepare for them.
I desperately wanted a husband and all that came with it. But deep down, I wasn’t even ready for love!
Women tend to place such a high value in the love from relationships, that they are willing to do anything to get it and make it last.
I personally struggled with this years ago. I became desperate and completely out of touch with reality because I sacrificed everything I had (including all of my other relationships with friends and family) to ensure that my relationship last. Whenever the relationship ended, I feel completely apart, from the inside out.
At the end of the day, when you really strip down what a relationship is to women, it always boils down to these two factors:
Security and Lasting Love
Think about it…
Why do you long to be in a relationship? Because. The relationship brings a sense of security. As long as you’re in one, you won’t have to worry about being alone or searching for the rest of your life for someone to settle down with, right?
On the other hand, women also want to have someone who will accept them for who they are, all the time, no matter what. We want to feel consistent love and that does not judge.
With that being said, are you really ready for love? Do you really have all of your stuff together so that when this kind of love does come your way, you’ll be able to see it, keep it, and make it last?
To help you figure out if you’re ready or not, here are a few questions you can consider:
- Are you stable and content when you are single or do feel completely miserable because you’re single?
- Can you find joy outside of having a man in your life or are you waiting for a man to bring joy to you?
- Are you happy with what you currently have in your life or are you envious of what others have in theirs?
- Are you able to take care of yourself (look good, feel good, and be your best)?
PS- Getting dolled up to look and feel good should not happen only when you have a hot date! It should happen all the time because it makes YOU feel better!
If you want to live a life that you absolutely love then you have to understand this one thing:
It comes from knowing who you are, what you want, and what you value.
Once you discover the love that is already inside of you, and that trusting God will help you embrace that, then it becomes much easier to find lasting love in someone else.
If you feel like you’re not really ready for love yet after considering these questions, then that’s where I come in…
I help women all over the world learn to trust God with their love-life. Mind you, I’m not taking any credit for what God does (and will do) in your life. But I can help you form a lifestyle that will pursue Him first, love yourself second, and restore your love-life!
Are you really ready for love?
Take the blinds off of love and give yourself (and perhaps some Relationship Coaching) a chance!
Your Turn: How do you know that you’re really ready for love? Share your thoughts in the comments below!