I was a woman with a plan. Had the degrees. Had the man. And thought I had life all figured out. That is until my love life completely wrecked me. That’s when I decided to reset my relationship with God. Together, He taught me how to apply my faith towards trusting Him to create a life beyond my wildest dreams. Ten years later, I have the privilege to teach women to do the same.
I believe that God has called me to encourage women to trust Him openly and fully with their most precious gift: their hearts. Going through all of the heartaches and heartbreaks in my time has given me a powerful testimony that I now use to inspire others to put God back at the center of every relationship in order to create love the way that God originally designed it to be. A love that is naked and unashamed (Genesis 2:25).
Coming from a divorced family, I vowed to never become like my parents. I was determined to find love and keep it. Even though I knew God my entire life, I never fully included Him in my love life. Rather than “submit” to the “strict rules” that God had when it came to love and relationships, I went off to college and did my own thing. I looked to friends, movies, and shows like “Sex and the City” to teach me about love.
I never took into account how much baggage I was bringing into my relationships, let alone how much more baggage I was creating in the process. With every breakup I encountered, I felt like a complete failure. And because God was not answering my prayer to live happily ever after I became more and more angry and distant with Him.
With each new guy I began to settle less and less. I felt love was what you decided to make it. But deep down, love was becoming a mere fantasy that not even real.
As I was heading into my third year with a guy I was certain would become my husband, he dumped me. I was devastated. Utterly crushed and lost. I lost my future plans, my identity, my everything.
I had no other choice but to look to God. And to finally trust in Him with this thing called love. Slowly but surely, God pulled me in closer. He was able to heal me from my past and restore me for my future. Then, when He deemed that I was ready, He brought me my husband. Only… I had no idea how to date him. Or approach him. Or love him. All while balancing the love I found for myself and God.
Day by day, God showed us how to honor Him through our fears, our pasts, our imperfections, and everything in between. In doing so, we were able to grow closer together, and in love. After dating a year, and engaged for a year, we got married in 2013 and shared our first kiss at the altar! We now have 3 kids and live in our dream home!
Even though I gained two degrees in Health Administration in 2008 & 2009, God made the most transformational impact on me through my love life. If I am going to leave this Earth someday, I want to be remembered for leading women out of their broken love lives and into a life where they wholeheartedly trust God and allow Him to transform their hearts and lives too! Four books later, I share my story and lessons on how women can apply their own faith towards building a life beyond their wildest dreams!
My Published Work
The Single Woman’s Prayer Book
Thirty personal prayers are designed to help single women of faith to reconnect with God, heal from past pains, embrace singleness, and prepare for future Mr. Right!
The Engaged Woman’s Prayer Book
Over 30 personal prayers catered to prepare bride-to-be’s to plan their wedding, prepare for marriage, and develop a prayer life with Mr. Right!
The Christian Woman’s Guide to Dating
Learn practical steps and beliefs of why God should navigate your dating life, from singleness to exclusiveness, and everything inbetween!
Christian Dating Adventures: A Couple’s Guide
Get 64 unique dates to help you connect with your date, strengthen your relationship, explore new adventures, and grow closer to God!
Bella to Jehovah
Selina’s service was amazing! It was something I so needed so badly. Therapy doesn’t give you the tools you need…this service sets you up to succeed. In Selina’s service, I got the tools to overcome.
Selina is the best! I don’t know what I’d do without her. She was there whenever I needed anything. Having her only an email away was very comforting.”
I liked working with Coach Selina because she came to me with a different way of thinking. She hears me out and listens to me, and then she responds in a way that I didn’t even think about! She made me sit back and think. Sometimes I get so consumed in making everybody else happy and I never took the time to look out for me, do what makes me happy…Selina did such a fantastic job!”
My results for working with Selina was a new-found importance to take specific time each day to focus on loving myself by doing things that make me happy.
Selina really wants to help understand each woman and her “struggle” or challenge. She is phenomenal at asking the questions that helped me get to a solution. Overall, Selina cares about the well-being of her clients and works to provide the tools in order to help them achieve their dreams.”
I don’t think a lot of people will take the time to, especially when they are in Selina’s position or when they are coaching you, a lot of time they don’t challenge you. They want you to feel good about things, and they’ll walk with you and do what you wanna do, but I think a lot of the times, whenever I would do things, Selina showed me that there were better ways to get results.”
Selina is confident, passionate and energetic. Sessions with her end with realistic goals and a positive outlook on life in general. I highly recommend Selina to anyone that’s looking for a little direction in life. She is awesome!”
I even gave her services as a gift certificate to one of my friends as a wedding gift to help her plan, and organize her wedding! She’s more than a Coach; she really helps with keeping me balance!”