Something’s not right…how do you know if he’s cheating?
You’ve been dating someone for quite some time and you’re beginning to know their mannerisms, behavior, and attitude.
So it comes to a complete surprise when you notice that something’s…off.
How do you know for sure? What if your mind is playing tricks on you?
You might think that it’s impossible to ever cheat on you. Others may be in sheer denial of the truth.
Here are 5 ways to know if he’s cheating on you! Click below to enjoy this video.
#1: He shares none of his business with you.
I can understand that he may be planning a surprise for you and doesn’t want you to know the details.
I can even understand that your relationship may not be as deeply involved yet and there are some things about him that he isn’t comfortable talking about.
However, if he tells you absolutely NOTHING about where he goes, what he does, who he’s with, then…oh yeah, girlfriend…he’s cheating on you.
If you’re in a committed relationship than you both should be mature enough to be open and transparent to talk about your friends, family, and daily activities. And no, it’s not rude if you ask about these things especially if you both consider the relationship “exclusive”.
#2: If he thinks like a cheater.
Cheaters are slick. In order for their plans to work, they have to plot certain schemes so that they never get caught.
If he’s cheating, he’ll approach you with crazy assumptions and alibis as if you’re the one up to no good.
How else would someone come up with crazy conclusions unless they too have to think like this in order to live life?
If he walks like a duck, quacks like a duck, and looks like a duck, then he’s a cheater and you’re dating him!
#3: You live in two separate worlds.
None of your hobbies, favorite hang-out spots, or circle of friends are the same. In a healthy relationship, these worlds should merge together to some extent. If you never see this happening, then there’s a slim chance that you are actually a part of his “real” world.
You’re not dating him and you guys aren’t in a relationship.
You might actually be just something on the side that he goes to when he wants to get away from his “real” world.
#4: He constantly disappears.
Seriously, if you cannot find your boyfriend…you have every right to feel suspicious!
I remember dating an ex-boyfriend and we agreed to meet at a certain place, at a certain time. When I arrived at the place on time and was unable to find him, I called. No answer.
After multiple attempts to reach him without luck, he suddenly responds and says that he was on the phone with his grandmother.
Of course, it would have made total sense if he and his grandmother were close and this was the norm.
Of course, this would have been an acceptable excuse if he had simply texted back, “I’m on the other line”, as he normally did in the past.
But none of that happened. So yes, it was odd, and lies were being told.
Don’t buy the lame excuses when your gut tells you that something is not right!
When you realize that something does not make sense at all, do not overthink the situation in hopes that what he’s telling you will magically make sense over time.
Trust your instinct and follow your heart…you’ll know when you’re being suckered. And you’ll definitely know if he’s cheating once you stay true to you!
#5: Everything is your fault.
Whenever you confront him of a fishy situation, all of sudden you’re in the wrong. Does he ever make you feel like you’re the one who has a trust issue and he’s starting to play the victim role?
Cut the crap and shut it.
Do not allow your boyfriend to manipulate the situation so that you are no longer focused on his sneaky acts. This is only a plot to get you to take the focus off of him, place it on yourself, and make you feel like you’re going to lose him (instead of the other way around!)
Know who you are, what you’re worth, and know that you don’t need to put up with any of his BS!
Observe these attitudes and confront the situations as they arise. Ask him downright if he’s cheating! List all of the red flags that you’ve noticed! The receipts don’t lie!
If he’s not hiding anything, then he’ll be happy to ease your worries, and help you regain security in your relationship.
If he’s cheating, then you’ll notice a lot of beating around the bush, the confrontation could escalate, or further proof that you need to leave the relationship before it’s too late.