This should seem like a no-brainer to Christian women. I mean, of course, you trust God with your love life, right? Right?
Well, I thought I did. That is when things were going well. But as soon as there was a breakup, or a still season in my life where I had to wait longer than a season to find a nice guy (let alone my Mr. Right!), my trust in God began to waver.
I began to wonder if He had forgotten about me.
Perhaps there was something I did wrong and God was punishing me with this uncomfortable season of singleness.
Or, maybe He was trying to clue me in that I was meant to live my life alone.
When the clouds are foggy and the waters are murky, how exactly can any woman remain steadfast and faithful to God when it comes to their love-life and actually finding true love in their life?
You don’t have to take it from me, but based on my personal experience, there were five things that really helped me not only trust in God with this particular area of my life, but it also helped me shaped the faith that kept me going and allowed me to prepare for the love-life that I so desperately wanted.
Whether you just began to grow your relationship with God, or you’ve been walking with the Lord since you actually learned how to walk, I’m sure that we all can fall into a rut at some point in our lives. Especially when things don’t necessarily go our way.
When it comes to love, it has such a strong emotional attachment that once we experience it with someone, it’s hard not to want to continue living among that feeling.
Therefore, if we tend to lose love (say, from a divorce or breakup) then chances are, we long to find it again… of someone else.
And if you’re anything like I used to be, I simply could not stand the thought of living a life alone without feeling that “in love” feeling.
Once I went through a breakup, I tried to find love in the next best guy I could find. And yes, this leads to a lot of no-good guys, dramatic relationships, and even more heartache.
But I thank God today that I was able to learn how to put my trust in Him one final time!
Learning to trust God gave me the strength I needed to not only take my time with finding the right man at the right time, but it truly helped me grow to become the woman I had always dreamed of becoming: a strong woman of faith.
During a very lonely season, I vowed to remain single for at least six months. It may seem like nothing to you, but for me, it was almost impossible. It was during this time that I learned how to trust in God with my love-life.
Here are five reasons why you highly consider you to trust God when it comes to your very own love-life.
1. It will help you avoid heartache.
Whenever we take our focus off of God’s plan for us, we become distracted by everything else. So when it comes to you and your love-life, the media, your friend’s relationships, and anyone else who happens to be boo’d up could make you feel worse about your situation. The more you focus on the negative reasons behind why you are still single, the more tempted you will become to take matters into your own hands and end up with Mr. Wrong.
2. It will keep you focused on what He has in store for you.
When you trust in God, you begin to not only see the distractions for what they really are, but you’ll be strong enough to resist them. I remember walking into a Wal-mart and noticing a very odd couple arguing over toothpaste. I thought to myself, “If God can bring them together then surely He has someone for me!” And this was honestly my motivation many months. Whenever I thought a guy could be the one and ended up being a dud, I reminded myself that God must have someone better.
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3. He has a way better man for you than what you think you have for yourself.
So you think that a certain individual has the total package but he’s out of reach, or not interested, etc? Guess what? What you thought was best for you is not even close compared to the man who God has in store for you!
When I met my husband, he barely met any of my common “qualities” (we are soo different!) Once I got to know him, (and when I began to love him), God began to reveal things about him that I had only prayed about!
How could one man possess so many of my deepest, heartfelt prayers, without me ever mentioning it to him or anyone else? God. That’s how.
If you trust in Him, He’ll prove it to you too.
4. He has never failed you.
Sure, your love-life may be a touchy subject, but let’s think about all of the other areas in your life where God has come through for you. There have been so many answered prayers that He provided for you. What makes you think that He will address all of those and forget about this particular part of your life? Especially when it’s on your mind all the time! God sees and knows your heart. God knows what you long for. He even knows about those dreams that you may be too afraid to share out loud. And believe me, His track-record, since the beginning of time, is crystal clear.
So when you begin to lose faith and trust in God, remind yourself of the things He has done so far. And regain your trust in the times and things (and people) that are yet to come!
5. It will encourage you to walk on water and move mountains.
Do you see your love-life as a lake with no way of crossing over to the other side? By trusting in God, He will make the possible out of the impossible and before you realize it, you’ll be walking on water. Or how about a stubborn mountain? Trust in the Lord! Love will shatter that mountain and shine all over you!
So do not allow your trust to waver. Do not let the enemy start playing with your emotions and toying with your thoughts. Don’t assume that God is angry with you! Or that because you had a few breakups that mean that you’ll never find your Mr. Right!
knowing that God has our best interest at heart should tell us that his ways are so much more better than our own. So why shouldn’t we trust him in our love life as well! In my own moments or doubt I remember of all the times I tried to do things my way (including finding a man) and noticed such disaster, worry, and anxiety. The moment I give up and trust God things shape together effortlessly!
Such a great post!
Doing it God’s way makes ALL the difference in the world!! Glad you enjoyed the post! Thanks for reading!!
I’m reading this post and thinking to myself this writer has been an invisible witness to my life!
Who gave her the right to get inside my head and know my heartfelt thoughts???
I have been struggling with faith to trust God with my love life. Been on dating websites asking people to set me up and yup…you guessed it, none of these ruses work.
Just as you said, it’s all about not wanting to lose that “in love” feeling. A deep desire to want to feel a sense of belonging and at the end of the work day wanting to feel that “I have a man feeling” (deep sigh)
Sadly, after a few months the dismal realization that this is not Mr Right but rather another failed relationships begins to set in and that sense of hopelessness takes the steering wheel
Please help me pray for this pattern to be broken and for faith to trust God with this very essential part of my life.
Yes girl! I will most certainly be praying with you and for you! The si gel season is such a defining season in one’s life and getting the encouragement you need is critical!! I’m happy to see that my platform can give you that sense of support that you’ve been longing for! I hope you stick around!! 💖
Just got married seven months ago after a 14 year season of singleness. I remember getting so frustrated with God that he had put the desire in my heart, then not given me a husband. Turns out his timing was perfect; my poor hubby (and myself) were being refined in that time. God IS trustworthy, even in your singleness. Great post!
Thanks!! Yes, I too felt some resentment towards God! Oh, but His perfect timing!!! Congrats to you and your hubby’s marriage!!
I know this has been a bit, but was every tear and tim e you thought a guy was the one or hurt was it all finally worth it and how did you know
Totally and definitely worth it all!!! So so so very happy I didn’t end up with any of the other guys!! It just makes so much sense now!
Also, I didn’t know immediately! A lot of prayer, fasting, talking, fasting, and praying!!! 💖
Just sent you an email. This was a great post! Thanks for the inspirational words. And love your blog!
Thank you!! So glad that you enjoyed it! I hope you visit again soon! Please share with your friends!
This is exactly what I needed to be reminded of – especially today. I’m in a very bad space presently – feels like a deep black hole?
Your message has given me so much new hope as I do trust God and a person tends to forget too easily that He is Almighty and wants only the best for us. All you have to do is ask Him, trust in Him and be patient.
Thank you for the well timrd reminder.
Hey Michelle! I’m so glad this post spoke to you! God’s timing is perfect!!
All the way from Tanzania and also a man who i was been in heartache many times; but this site helps to grow again with patience for right one ….
Hello from the US! So glad and thankful to hear that my site can encourage you!
Thank you for this, Iv’e technically been single for my whole life and im 28 Its hard specially when you love someone to trust God. And I know its bad but I get scared thinking that what If it never happens or how does he have better than I think. Or whqat if its less then I think but I know thats not true and he has more its just hard waiting
It is. But waiting for the guy is the wrong way to go about it. Using the “waiting time” to fulfill yourself, better know yourself, and better know God is what helps you move through the season! 💖